Holistic Family Mediation Blog

Do I need a Mediator to get divorced?


If you have concluded that your marriage/ relationship has come to an end with no prospect of reconciliation, you and your ex-partner may choose to work with a mediator to stay in control of the outcomes and avoid court proceedings and litigation.


Mediation is a much cheaper and quicker option for divorcing and separating couples and helps aid better communication and understanding between the parties.


A mediator will support and help you and your ex-partner reach your own informed decisions on all or some of the issues arising out of your breakup by providing key legal and other information and pragmatic guidance on the issues that need to be resolved with the backdrop of the law applicable in mind.


Sometimes, other professionals may be engaged as a third-party neutral to support the process and decision making. For example, a report on pension sharing and divorce would need to be considered if there are substantial pension investments that need to be sorted out and agreed.


If you want a kind, compassionate and dignified divorce, you should opt to work with a mediator. Mediators are skilled and trained to manage conflict, hold space for productive and constructive dialogue and to redress any power imbalances.


Mediation will allow you to keep the bigger picture in mind and will support you and your ex-partner to remain civil and polite to one another. This is particularly important if you have children as you will be able to share space with your child/ren on momentous occasions such as milestone birthdays, special assemblies, sports days, University visits, graduations, engagements, weddings and birth of grandchildren.


Holistic Family Mediation’s mission is to have a positive impact on you, your children and future generations; to flip the script on divorce – it does not have to be so toxic, bitter and twisted and can be kind, compassionate and dignified if you choose to work together for the greater good of all.


If you are curious about how mediation can help support you and your family, you may wish to consider our FAQs page and/or book in a Free Discovery Call via our services page.


If you are ready to get the ball rolling, please complete and submit a Self-Referral Form and book your initial separate Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting (MIAM) online. We will then get in touch with your ex-partner to encourage them to engage in the process highlighting the benefits of family mediation - it supports a kinder, compassionate divorce, lower costs, staying in control of outcomes and allows for a quicker resolution compared to court-based proceedings.